People Pleasing Syndrome.

I just find myself saying Yes to these people who deserve a big No. Why do I always find myself agreeing to all these requests? I know I can't do them all, but I need to try. Yes I can do it, I managed last time. I think I can squeeze up my schedule to fix this up. Is it really my responsibility ,I am not really aware of that? I had not planned for it but I could try. I guess I got confused when I was asked that question. Why in this whole world did I agree to such a task? I think am going nuts. I had the answer it was a No  but I just don't know what happened to me I just found myself saying Yes. Sounds like all the clutter in my mind clears up after I have said Yes. Poor me 

I know by now you are getting a hint of my current predicament. Am a people pleaser that's it. I just discovered am trapped in making others happy.

Have you ever found yourself in such scenarios? If the answer is Yes just keep reading, well if its a No keep reading too you could help someone out  This is what it means, to please other people and forfeit your own self. Have you ever found yourself portraying certain attributes just to get some approval from men. Maybe you do it consciously or unconsciously. This calls for us to backtrack our steps and search for another road that leads to freedom. Freedom for our own selves.

We need to keep everything in balance. We should not please others to our own ruin.

Don't be afraid to lose people. Be afraid of loosing yourself in the pursuit of pleasing others.

Tips to avoid from falling into the people pleasing trap

1.Become Self Aware

This calls for you to dig deep within yourself and understand why you do things the way you do them i.e. your personal truths, thoughts, motives of even helping out and your feelings.

2.Stall

Make sure you take some time to think about a certain decision you are making. Don't say Yes at a go think about it first.

3.Realise you can't help everyone.

People pleasers think they are the new super heroes in town. They think they can solve every problem people have which is not the case.

4.Set clear boundaries.

Boundaries will help you understand where you begin and where you end. Make sure the decision you have made does not interfere the boundaries you have set for yourself.

5.Say No politely.

Saying a polite No should not be considered rude or unpolite. You just need to own up to that decision make sure you do not apologize if your not on the wrong side.

Lets seek to do what's appropriate for ourselves and also help others out when we are in a position to do so.

Happy New month guys

Thanks for reading.